6 things I discovered and learned in my 20s

The early twenties are a crucial period in one’s life that must be embraced. When it comes to picking the appropriate career, making key decisions, and meeting new acquaintances, it’s the most stressful and hectic time. Everyone in their twenties attempts to figure out what they want to do with their lives, what will bring them happiness for the rest of their lives, and what is right and wrong, which is natural.

Make the most of your time by being selfish with it, taking care of yourself, paying attention to your mental health, and cherishing the people who are important to you.
Here are six crucial skills I am now learning daily…

1. It’s time to start taking care of yourself

Your physical health is critical, but don’t forget to take care of your mind as well. Inspire it, challenge it, recognize that you are exposing your heart regularly, and look after yourself. The same is true for your family and friends. Make yourself available to them anytime they require it.

The sooner you begin your nutrition and exercise routine, the sooner you can lay the groundwork for a healthy mind and body.

2. It’s okay to feel lost

One of the discoveries after graduation is that no one has it all figured out in their career and life. After graduation adulthood is tough and a rough patch everyone goes through. You go through many phases in life where you will be stuck upon a question, a decision you have to take for yourself.

You will feel that you are growing after graduation, excited, and what you want to reach your goals, and what you want to be your dream, and for many years roadblocks, and the ground You are ready to run above. You will wonder if it is worth it, you will wonder if you will ever get there, and just know everyone feels this way, especially in their 20s. You’re not alone, and it’s completely normal. Try to find healthy ways to manage it, like working out and if you can afford it, go to therapy.

You will feel let down when someone asks you the question of what are you going to do in life. If you can’t answer it it’s okay.

3. Learn skills that will support your career

Nowadays only completing your graduation is not enough to secure a good job or an internship, recruiters are looking for those candidates who are not only efficient in their field but also are experts in other skills which can make team players and good leaders for their job position. You need to do some research and need to have some expertise certification or experience in that field for others to believe you are the right fit for them.

Start researching related to your field and which courses you can take up, if you have an interest in the IT field learn some basics of cyber security or the ITIL frameworks for your knowledge. For example, could you put yourself forward for new assignments or projects, carry out voluntary work or start a new online course or evening class? Perhaps there are people who you can learn from or shadow who are doing the role you next want to do.

4. Explore places…sometimes alone

Find the courage to travel, and sometimes even travel alone. There is nothing more exciting and life-changing than discovering an incredible place you didn’t expect to find. Pack your suitcase, catch a plane and explore a foreign country or any beautiful place you have never been to. With any luck, you’ll see meet some interesting people, and get a bit more in touch with yourself while doing it. Go solos or with your best friends to gain a bit of confidence, bringing out your fun and adventurous side. Make new memories and don’t forget to capture them.

After your 20s you will be taking on major responsibilities and even you will not get much time to spare because of your career, responsibilities, etc. But manage to take time in that period to because going to places changes you.

5. Cut ties with negative people

Once you’ve left school, left university, and moved on to real life, being “popular” or whatever that even means, doesn’t matter anymore. Having a million friends that you barely even talk to is unnecessary and often you come across negative people in your life. Instead, keep your best friends close and dodge any toxic people!

Life is too short to make people feel that it is not what you want. Don’t waste your time with people trying to depress you and make you feel better. If people don’t make you feel good, kick them to the side of the road, and the sooner the better.

6. Friendships change with time

There are two types of friends in life: the kind that when you go away for a long time and come back, it feels like nothing’s changed, and the kind that when you go away for a long time and come back, it feels like everything’s changed. – Mark Manson

When you’re in your twenties, you start deciding who you want to be. So do your friends. It may or may not go in the same direction, but that’s okay. Most relationships aren’t designed to last a lifetime, they are designed to help shape people at certain stages of your life.

It’s devastating, because you’re growing apart from people you thought would play a big role in your future, and making friends is extremely hard after college. After graduating from college, it’s very difficult to make friends. You’ll find it harder to meet and spend time with your friends, and sometimes they don’t care. You can’t assume that people care for you the way you care for them, but you can adjust your level of expectation and attachment. You will find your group; you need to make room for them in your life by not prioritizing those who do not prioritize you.

Here’s something I’d like to say to you…

If you’re in your twenties and reading this, I just have one piece of advice for you: “STOP BEING SO HARD ON YOURSELF.” Don’t take yourself too seriously when you fail to enjoy the little things in life. The best years of one’s life are those spent in their twenties. Do strange things, learn more about the world and yourself, embrace your flaws, and get rid of harmful individuals in your life. Stop following the rules and instead concentrate on what makes you happy with precautions. To determine your worth, you don’t need a Job title, a huge number of followers, a solid relationship, or a decent salary.

It’s up to you to define it.

I know it’s been so long since I have posted any blog. I had taken a long break from writing because I was going through so many things and needed some personal break, but now that I am back please appreciate it and leave a comment if you have any other points you have learned while in your 20s to add.

Comment down below, would love to read your thoughts too.

Happy reading!

Sources:

Mark Manson